Most couples wait until their hurt and resentment is at such a high level that marriage counseling has become their last resort. Of course, at this stage marriage counseling is less effective than it would have been months and even years before. However, it is never too late.
Some studies have shown that marriage counseling is not as effective as many believe, and that women receive more from the counseling than men, but we believe that any couple who will commit to changing their relationship will benefit from marriage counseling. Relational wounds are created in unhappy marriages and wounds heal faster when treated earlier.
John Gottman's research looks at happy couples for solutions. He has discovered that even though all couples experience conflict in their marriages, happy couples apparently know how to handle their disagreements because of a foundation of affection and friendship.
Gottman suggests that the goal of couple therapy needs to change. Rather than trying to change marriages, he thinks counselors should teach communication skills to couples.
Every marriage relationship is unique, but there are common warning signs and red flags that indicate problems in the marriage.
Here are some of the more common warning signs of a troubled marriage.
If even a couple of these behaviors are common in their marital relationship get profession help now.